Love problems & Relationship problems
1. Misunderstandings are
inevitable.
Misunderstandings are going
to happen. If you take your partner’s words one way, then learn they meant
something totally different, don’t punish them. Let it go. Bringing it up all the time is only going to bruise the
relationship and cause communication problems later. Sometimes what you say or do will be taken the wrong way, and
you’ll get frustrated that your partner doesn’t understand. Take a step back and realize it’s not a big deal.
Misunderstandings are made to be swept under the rug because they’re so minor.
They only become problems if you let them grow bigger and mean more in the scope of your relationship. Be laid back and forgive misunderstandings.
They only become problems if you let them grow bigger and mean more in the scope of your relationship. Be laid back and forgive misunderstandings.
2. Learn to trust them.
You have to trust your
partner. Why would you share your
life with someone when you think they’re doing something wrong every time you
turn your back? If you don’t trust your
partner to be faithful, honest, caring, or anything else, then you’re not in a
good relationship. The best relationships begin with a deep trust, and even if
problems come up (and they will!), the trust is strong enough to keep you
together.
3. Let yourselves miss each
other.
You’re in love, so you want
to be together all the time! It’s so fun to cuddle all night and be together all day, but when
will you have time to experience different things? When you go to separate workplaces or schools, you experience things that will give you something to talk about later.
When you go out with your friends and your partner spends time with theirs, you have time and space to yourself and come back to each other refreshed. You have a chance to miss each other, and it helps you really understand the value of your relationship. Missing someone is great because getting to see them after that period will make you so happy and so sure of your relationship.
When you go out with your friends and your partner spends time with theirs, you have time and space to yourself and come back to each other refreshed. You have a chance to miss each other, and it helps you really understand the value of your relationship. Missing someone is great because getting to see them after that period will make you so happy and so sure of your relationship.
4. Encourage growth and
change.
In a good relationship,
both partners are encouraged to grow and change. You have one life to live –
you should explore it to the fullest! If you want to quit your job and go back
to school, your partner should support you. If you want to try something new or
go back to something old, you should find support in your relationship. And you
should give this support in return. Encourage your partner to explore hobbies
and interests and meet new people. If you want your partner to stay the same, you’re going to have a
very boring life together.
5. Compromising doesn’t
mean you’re weak.
Compromising doesn’t mean
“giving in.” It doesn’t mean that you've lost the fight. In fact, it’s the
opposite. Do you know how hard it is to compromise sometimes? You want your way
because it sounds right and makes sense to you. Your partner is way off base
with their suggestions. Take a step back and look at the argument
diplomatically. What’s the logical conclusion? If your partner is right, don’t be afraid to say so. Accept their way, or modify both of your solutions to be half and half. The important thing is not getting your way, it’s staying in
your relationship and helping it grow. Compromising will
definitely help your relationship grow.
6. Admit your weaknesses.
Your partner doesn’t expect
you to be a superhero, and hopefully you don’t expect that of them! We’re all human;
we all have flaws. It’s okay to let these show. In fact, to have a stable,
serious relationship, you need to let your weaknesses be known. Your partner will be more sensitive to things that bother you, and
can help build you up in areas where you need some help.
7. Sometimes you can only
accept things, not fix them.
People have baggage. You
have some. Your partner has some. Can you go back and erase all of this? Nope!
You’re stuck with it, and have to learn to deal with it. Some things are easier to get over than others, but the reality is
that sometimes, you can’t fix things. You
can’t make problems go away. You have to accept them and get over them and move
on, or else your relationship will crumble.
8. Forgive quickly and
truly.
Whenever you have a fight,
don’t worry about who wins or who loses. Learn from the fight – from what was
said as much as from how it was resolved. Once you
learn from a fight, you can apply that lesson to your relationship to avoid
trouble later. That’s all well and good,
but you’re not done! Forgive your partner! Forgive yourself. The fight is over,
you’re past it, now let it go. Never hold anything against your partner because
the resentment will build until you don’t want to be with them.
9. Never expect anything.
Don’t expect your partner
to read your mind, or to bring you breakfast in bed, or to offer to wash the
dishes. It’s not going to happen. You can’t expect anything
from anyone – you have to make it known.
Communicate. Make sure your partner knows what you expect from the
relationship, as well as your opinions on a wide variety of issues. This will
help them act considerate towards you, but still – don’t expect anything!
10. Show your feelings.
The worst thing you can do
in a relationship is play games. Don’t tease your partner; don’t “reward” good
deeds with love and affection. You have to make sure your partner always feels
loved. You can be happy with them or be mad at them – it doesn’t matter – they
just need to feel loved. They need to know your feelings in the moment as well,
don’t get me wrong. But make sure you’re showing
your feelings in a way that they won’t be misunderstood.
